Introducing me

You can get some of my story under the ABOUT button. I just wanted to share why I feel the need to start this site.

I’m Wayne. Born and bred in Zimbabwe, I have witnessed the beautiful people of our nation experience war, pain, fear, social and physical upheaval, political violence and insecurity, economic collapse, and the breakdown of the family. This is an incredible nation filled with resilient individuals making up wonderful communities, open hearts, smiling faces and genuine joy despite such hardships. People are authentic and open however there is an underlying current that is slowly undermining the essence of who we are.

In my journey as a Christ-follower, father, pastor and teacher, I have come to recognise one aspect of this ‘current’ as being a loss of identity and destiny specifically due to the increased absence of the fathers in the home. We are experiencing an unprecedented generation of people who are struggling with issues of ‘who am I?’ and ’where am I going?’

Further study and questioning has led me to a place where I believe that I can and must share what I have discovered with others, and the next generation in particular. This is not a Zimbabwe problem, this is a universal problem which stems from broken relationships starting with that our our maker, Father God. Of all the titles at His behest, God chooses to reveal Himself to man as ‘Father’. Our Father…

The quality of our lives is dependent upon the quality of our relationships. If our primary (source) relationship lies in ruins then what hope do we have in establishing authentic, faithful and loving relationships with others?

And all of this is a gift from God, who brought us back to himself through Christ. And God has given us this task of reconciling people to him. For God was in Christ, reconciling the world to himself, no longer counting people’s sins against them. And he gave us this wonderful message of reconciliation. So we are Christ’s ambassadors; God is making his appeal through us. We speak for Christ when we plead, “Come back to God!” For God made Christ, who never sinned, to be the offering for our sin, so that we could be made right with God through Christ. 2 Corinthians 5:18-21 (NLTSE)

As I have personally seen the miracle of the transformation of a human heart, redeeming even the most broken of lives and the subsequent restoration of their relationships, I have dedicated my life to this appeal, “Come back to God!”

As a husband and father myself, it is vital to live authentically as a living testimony to the message I proclaim. This has birthed a passion to empower men, in particular, to find the freedom to become the husbands and fathers that they were destined to be. And it all begins with turning their hearts towards the Father.

Look, I am sending you the prophet Elijah before the great and dreadful day of the LORD arrives. His preaching will turn the hearts of fathers to their children, and the hearts of children to their fathers. Otherwise I will come and strike the land with a curse.” Malachi 4:5-6 (NLTSE)

And so this is why I write. It’s my little way of releasing, for God’s glory, His flavours and colours into the world. I hope that you will join me on this adventure. Perhaps, with God’s Spirit working in and through us, we can make a difference. We can make this a world where we treat one another with dignity, respect and love, irrespective of their colour, race, religion, ethnicity, background or personal preferences as we point them to the underserved grace, love, forgiveness, healing and restoration in God, our Father.

And maybe, just maybe, Zimbabwe will be filled with the sounds of freedom and joy once again!

When a man’s heart is turned, a family is saved.

The eBook is now out!

I am excited to announce that I have finally managed to get the book up onto the Amazon platform. It has been quite a process and I apologise for the delays. Being in lockdown in Zimbabwe, with slow internet speeds, have hampered my progress somewhat.

The printed copies are still a work in process for Southern Africa. However our USA and European friends will be able to purchase a printed copy directly from Amazon, who can print on demand. Go directly to Amazon.com And type in my name to purchase your copy today.

Let me make mention of the cover. Uliana Mozgaleva has painted an original picture for me for the Southern African print copies. This talented woman, originally from Russia, has captured a beautiful, young warrior, covered in the armour of God, fighting for a better future in a dry and desolate wasteland. Contrary to the ‘damsel in distress’, this young lady appears confident and strong. She doesn’t need a man. However, she would appreciate a committed, lifelong companion to walk this journey alongside her.

For the eBook cover, I have worked on something a little bolder as regards design. Rather than portraying a particular woman, I have chosen to use the question mark as the focus. What does our future hold? Who does it include? How will I cope with the uncertainty that lie ahead? In this age of uncertainty, these are legitimate questions. My prayer is that this book will go some way to equipping you to deal with those uncertainties as a family.

I am excited about this journey and, if honest, daunted by all the social media work I need to do. Please would you help by spreading the word and, if you do buy a copy, leave a review.

Thank you for your love and support. I will do my best to keep you posted on developments.

Protecting our daughters

This is an excerpt from my forthcoming book talking to a young man who desires to get married and one day have a family of his own.

Let’s face facts; men want sex and sex is not hard to find. I have three beautiful daughters and I, like them, would like to see them married to principled, godly men, healed in masculinity and driven by my their best interest. Men who know, and are accountable to, the Lord and understand ‘covenant’. The truth is men like that are fast becoming rare, and so there are probably a few things I’d like to say to her suitor…my potential future son.

Dear future son

Life is a wonderful journey, a gift filled with amazing people and incredible stories all designed to draw us to the heart of the Father. God connects us together in ways we would never have considered, placing us in families for His glory.

My wife and I started life in very different circumstances and yet by God’s grace, we found one another and have grown in love and understanding. Through our union we have been blessed to introduce three beautiful girls into the world.

These girls, one of which has captured your heart, have been entrusted to us by the Father to lead, love and nurture into the women He has called them to be. They are not ours; they belong to God. Although they carry His image, they each bear our name. Each daughter is our responsibility to raise and fall under our authority until such time we give her away in marriage. At that moment she will become yours.

I have learnt many lessons in becoming a father.  The first of which is that I don’t know everything especially when it comes to raising girls! The joy is knowing that I don’t need to know it all. And neither do you. All we need is to possess a heart that is soft, teachable and open to the nudging of the Spirit of God as He leads us into all truth. I believe that we exist for God’s glory and not vice versa. He has revealed His heart and intentions to us through both His word (the Bible) and His Holy Spirit. No man can have access to what another is thinking. Only his own spirit knows his thoughts. We cannot know what God is thinking except by His Spirit…and yet we have His Spirit living within us which means that we can know His thoughts. I also am confident that His thoughts about us are good and loving, filled with mercy and joy as He wants us to live life to the full. He is a good, good Father.

And so why this letter? It’s because I want the best for my daughter and I know that you desire the best for her too.

What is ‘the best?’ I am convinced it’s a life centered in Christ, growing continually in love, maturity and grace and  using our gifts, talents and resources for the glory of His Kingdom.

It is possible to live a rich, full life marked with respect, joy and peace, grounded in faithfulness and rooted in love. You will never avoid suffering, conflict or pain but you will have an unshakeable foundation during times of crisis anchored to an eternal hope.

You may have not experienced the same kind of upbringing that my daughter has had but that’s just fine. Embracing a future filled with hope can be your reality. Over the course of this book, I will share with you life lessons and Godly principles. Embracing them with intentionality will  empower you to be the man my daughter will be proud to call her husband. Think of it as my investment into your life as you choose to lose your life and gain everything! Let the journey begin…

A prayer for my son

A prayer for a future son from Ephesians 3:14-21 as expressed in the book.

To my future son.

As your father I look forward to this journey watching you and my precious daughter grow together in the wisdom and grace of our Heavenly Father.

I pray to the Father, the Creator of everything in heaven and on earth that from His glorious, unlimited resources He will empower you with inner strength through his Spirit. 

Then Christ will make His home in your heart as you trust in Him.
Your roots will grow down into God’s love and keep you strong.  

And may you have the power to understand, as all God’s people should, how wide, how long, how high, and how deep His love is. 

May you experience the love of Christ, though it is too great to understand fully. Then you will be made complete with all the fullness of life and power that comes from God. 

Now all glory to God, who is able, through His mighty power at work within us, to accomplish infinitely more than we might ask or think. Glory to Him in the church and in Christ Jesus through all generations forever and ever! Amen.

Why do this?

  • It is vital to be praying for the man or woman your child will one day marry. Even whilst your children are young and far from marriage. We started uplifting the men who will one day marry our daughters soon after each one was born. God inhabits the future.
  • This young man may be facing incredible challenges right now. Your prayers will empower and strengthen them as we engage life and death battles in the unseen realms.

I have not stopped thanking God for you. I pray for you constantly, asking God, the glorious Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, to give you spiritual wisdom and insight so that you might grow in your knowledge of God. I pray that your hearts will be flooded with light so that you can understand the confident hope he has given to those he called–his holy people who are his rich and glorious inheritance. Ephesians 1:16-18 (NLTSE)

I will share how to effectively pray for your children and their future in blogs to come.